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Moms Everywhere Show 038: What’s Your Destiny?

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Suzette Boyette
on June 30, 2009
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Picture yourself sitting on the sand, the warmth of dawn bathing you as you breathe slowly to begin your journey to just slow down, rejuvenate and maybe, just maybe find your “destiny”… Hmmm, can you picture this? This week, we talk to Davidji from the wonderful Chopra Center to learn how we can do this.

Have you been asking about what your purpose is? What can  you do to find balance in your family, household, career and being you? Are YOU lost and need to find direction in the chaos of the “economy” today? Well, this may just be the answer for you.

Synchrodestiny is a wonderful event that is held three times a year: one in Carlsbad, California (where the Chopra Center is), another in Sedona , Arizona and the other is at Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida!  It’s in our neck of the woods and perfect Florida weather!!! The one in Ponte Vedra Beach is on October 7-11, 2009 at the Ponte Vedra Resort. They are so excited because this is the first year they will have the event actually on the beach. Imagine greeting the day on the warm sand and saying good night on the beach! Dr. Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center) and also Davidji will be  with us to guide us during this journey… Woo-hoo! So much fun!

Snychrodestiny is perfect for us moms, If we want to take our life to the next level, SynchroDestiny guides us to:

  • Surround ourselves with success and love
  • Harness the power of coincidence to fulfill our goals
  • Attract people who support your vision
  • Apply timeless tools to create the life of our dreams
  • Eliminate anxiety and expand our capacity for happiness
  • Solve problems by accessing our inner wisdom

We do mediation, yoga, listen to inspiring workshops, and eat the most delicious meals (Ayurvedic meals) that support your body, mind and spirit. This is the PERFECT vacation, so bring your Mom, Sisters, Friends for some truly amazing time for you… you’ll return happier, more focused, and the Mom you truly are.

Davidji also talks with us about the benefits of mediation. At the Chopra Center and all the events, they do Primordial Sound Mediation that really is a type of meditation harnessing the energy of the time of your birth, giving you that “primordial sound” and then using it for finding the stillness we need in our lives. Prayer is a dialogue with God and meditation is listening to God, as Davidji explains.

When we find stillness twice a day ( they teach for 30 minutes each time), we are more at peace, respond to situations rather than react, and are the type of person we want to be for our families, for ourselves. And I’ve even incorporated meditation with my children during their bedtime routine. We get ready for bed, say our prayers, meditate and then, lights are out. They are calm and having loving thoughts just before they go to sleep. Davidji suggests that when meditating with children, the rule of thumb is one minute for each year of age. A five year old should be able to mediate for 5 minutes and a 10 year old for 10 minutes. ( Mine vary from 5-10 minutes of a guided meditation.)

I hope that after listening, you are inspired to start to try to mediate even for 5 minutes. Try it and see the magic that happens during the remainder of your day!

Hearing Davidji speak about finding who we are through meditation, yoga, and basically, just taking care of our bodies, really made me look forward to learning more and becoming excited about Synchrondestiny in October! Don’t we deserve this time?! Moms, we are so busy and this is the perfect way to take time for you to recharge, rejuventate, and BE!!!

Thanks, Davidji for sharing with us how to find the peace inside each of us!

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Moms Everywhere Show 037: Sibling Rivalry Part 2

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Suzette Boyette
on June 12, 2009
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Penny O’Connell is back this week to continue our talk on sibling rivalry. One of the first things she tell us this week is that for every negative statement we make, we must say 9 positives to “make up ” for the one negative statement we said. So, think about that when you speak to your children this week!

She also states that one of the many things we want for our children is to help them solve their own problems, so we need to raise our children with leadership, decision making abilities, right? When there is fighting or arguing, it is not necessary to blame , but to teach them the words, the phrases they need to use to help resolve the conflict.

One scenario we talked about was being in the car. Inevitably, this is the one area that there WILL be an argument or sibling rivalry of some sort. So, to help with this, Penny suggests that we first understand the uniqueness of each child. If one is more sensitive to noise or prefers a certain type of music, then the parent must take into account each child’s characteristics as well as likes and dislikes. Of course, with more than one child, you must take into account everyone’s personalities and discuss ways to make everyone be at a happy medium.

Second, plan ahead. Prepare the children about what the plan is for the trip, how long it is, how many things they can bring in the car, etc. Also, share with the children how important it is to you to be able to drive safely. Help them to understand the non-negotiability of safety in the car as well as for the driver driving. Certain conditions must be maintained such as the noise level inside and also not having to be the mediator in the middle of the argument. The mom’s attention needs to be on the road ahead, not on the children behind. Have any of you ever shared this to your children? I am curious to see what they say and how the environment changes after this discussion.

Another great suggestion Penny made was the  “Safe House Rules” she had established when her little ones had friends over playing. This was wonderful for other moms as well when they have play date together.

1. Nobody gets hurt- no pushing, no pulling, no hitting, etc.

2. Solve the problems by talking.

3. Everyone cleans up.

How simple is that!?! Great rules for siblings as well when they fight and argue. I’m going to put them up at my house! LOL

Once again, if you want to take a class from Penny just go to The International Network for Children and Families for more information.

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Moms Everywhere Show 036: Let’s Talk about Sibling Rivalry

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on June 1, 2009
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How many of us just want to pull our hair out when our children fight for the millionth time? WHY must they fight?! What’s the deal with sibling rivalry? Well, we have Penny O’Connell with us this week to talk with us about why sibling rivalry and how we can be more effective parents.

Penny O’Connell is a proud mother who walks the walk and talks the talk. Being one of ten children, she knows what it is like to come from a family of many siblings and how they all work together in a family. One of her sisters  who is seven years her senior, continues to be one of her mentors to this day. Penny was naturally attracted to helping parents, teaching children and showing families how to live harmoniously together.

Having taught parenting classes for over 10 years now, she definitely has many suggestions for us. One of the things that she tells us this week is that siblings fight with one another is because their needs are not being met at the same time. Also, she tells us that two and four year old children cannot play together alone. How many of us agree with this? LOL This is due to the fact that children this age do not know HOW to play together. We, as parents have to teach them how to do this.. play together, but oftentimes, they are not developmentally able to understand sharing. Penny gives us a few helpful hints regarding language and our young children during our discussion.

She also brings to our attention the question: What is my intention? She asks this when we see our children fighting and in a second must determine how we are going to respond to this situation. We should ask ourselves, “WHAT IS MY INTENTION?” Do we want to teach love and understanding? Or do we want to show anger? What do we want to teach our children in this moment? (This is one of the central themes of the book, Redirecting Children’s Behavior by Kathryn Kvols and is also the parenting class Penny and I teach called Redirecting Children’s Behavior.)

Penny reminds us that siblings last longer than we do as parents here on Earth. After we pass, siblings are the only ones left to love one another. She eloquently uses Steven Covey’s phrase, BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND. THis means to nurture the bonds between siblings so they will see the love and care family has. IF you want your children to love one another and have a close relationship, then it is up to us as parents to teach them, to nurture this relationship.

She also talks about establishing rituals as the key and glue to hold families together. Yes, there is fighting in families, but rituals really bond siblings together, don’t they?

Our discussion went by so quickly this week, that we asked Penny to return next week to continue our discussion on sibling rivalry and to give us more solutions in certain situations with our children as they age. She agreed to come back, of course!

Thanks for listening! We’ll hear from Penny next week!

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